Post-Partum, bulleted

I wanted to write a description of the c-section and recovery, but have not found the time or attention span for it.  So here are some bullet points from the last two weeks:

  • Having a baby in the hospital is the peak experience of the process that begins during pregnancy wherein your body is not your own.  It is a strange feeling of deconstruction.  Two examples: Right before the c-section, the insertion of the catheter was done by someone in training and who had to make several tries at it before getting it right.  Later, when a breast pump was being demonstrated on myself, my hospital room seemed to become a bus station, with various people coming in and out while the machine was chugging away.  All modesty goes out the window and in some ways it is a relief.  Now that I am out of the hospital, I must remember that showing everyone my breasts is no longer okay.
  • My emotions have been all over the place, although much time has been devoted to the crying place.  The Carly Simon song 'Coming Around Again' made me cry the other day, because of its appropriate use of the word 'bewildering' to describe parenthood.  I even bought it on iTunes.  The last song I bought before that was 'Taste the Pain' by the Red Hot Chili Peppers, which does not fully redeem this purchase.
  • Breastfeeding has been the most physically painful part of this entire process, including recovering from a c-section.
  • Everyone has their damn opinions on breastfeeding!
  • What did people do before television after having a baby?  Or was that when people just immediately went back to working the fields?  Although I don't understand why there are hours at night with no shows - aren't we in a 24-hour society now?
  • The shrieking specter of colic is showing its gaping maw.  Fear it.  Fear it.
  • More later...

Birth

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Soon we'll be heading to the hospital for my c-section.  Night-before-birth events:

  • Pint of Peanut Butter Cup ice cream consumed
  • Mystery Diagnosis watched
  • Observed cat lurch drunkenly around the house after getting a tumor removed from her ear
  • Crunching sound outside investigated: possum on back deck; back door left open to let in unusually cool night air (through screen door) subsequently closed
  • Blog post written
  • Finished reading The Red House Mystery by A. A. Milne.  I thought it was good.
  • Watched last half of movie Field of Dreams
  • Thought: huh, these seem to be actual contractions.  Interesting.
  • Hoped for the best

Looking down while wearing a blue polka dot shirt - 36 weeks pregnant

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Looking down while wearing a purple shirt - 35 weeks pregnant

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Babes R Us

Pregnant_beer_chick If you have a question about your baby registry and you go to the Babies R Us contact page, you will see two phone numbers.  Both of which have the thing where the number is a word (ToysRUS or BabyRUS) and not the actual damn numbers, so you are forced to search stupidly for the letters on the phone.  No one knows the letters so they can just dial, can they?  Surely not.

Anyway, so you note that you must figure out the number and are focusing on that and then you are done and it is ringing and a woman's voice answers and starts talking about 'hot, wet pussies' and you are startled by this.  And then you hang up.  And then you realize that while the ToysRUS number has 1-800 in front of it, the BabysRUS number has 1-888 in front of it.  And then you think of all the women who must make the same mistake.

It's true

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Evidence

23311826 Co-worker: I can tell you're having a boy because you are carrying all your weight here [grabs own ass with both hands].

Book meme

First_year4 So, yeah, I'm pregnant.  Four months.  I have nothing coherent to say about that now.  So I stole this from Sheila!

A book that made you cry:  A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving 
Death scenes always get to me.

A book that scared you: Pet Semetary by Stephen King 
Okay, I just noticed he spelled cemetery weird, I guess like a child would spell it, although I always misspell that word, too.  How could I have not noticed that before?  Anyway, this book scared the crap out of me and when I re-read it, it scared me just as much.  Even though the book kinda bugged me sometimes because it seemed to throw more and more scary shit on oddly, like the whole Zelda thing.  And there was that bizarre sex scene with the dishwashing gloves?  Huh?  The kid's name, Gage, still sounds like an undead child with a mashed head, walking in a disjointed, mechanical way, coming toward YOU....Jesus, it scared me.

A book that made you laugh: Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris 
I think this is the one with the very short story about using the bathroom at a party and finding a nasty surprise in the toilet.  Due to my sophisticated level of humor, I was crying in laughter from that. 

A book that disgusted you: Naked Lunch by William S. Burroughs
I didn't finish it either, which is supposed to be some kind of sin, right?  I just found the sex as part of murdering someone to be, well, distasteful.  I lost interest after that. 

A book you loved in elementary school: Misty of Chincoteague by Marguerite Henry 
Yeah, I liked horse books as a kid.  What of it?  I could beat you up.

A book you loved in middle school: The Once and Future King by T.H. White
Loved, loved, loved this book, particularly the childhood parts.  Later I read how T.H. White hated women and this was evident in the book, but I didn't notice at the time.  And whatever, excellent book.

A book you loved in high school: Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut
I went through a big Vonnegut phase in high school, reading all his books, re-reading them and so on.  Later I lost interest in them and appreciated his essays more.  But his books are really damn creative, you know?  Extremely distinctive and original.

A book you hated in high school: Walden by Henry David Thorough
Which is weird, because I was much more of a hippie then.  But I couldn't stand the writing and how fucking excited he was, referencing Greek myths all the time, about how he went camping.

A book you loved in college: Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins
I went through a Tom Robbins phase around that time.  Hasn't stood the test of time, really.  You know how Alfred Hitchcock would insert himself in every movie?  Well, it seemed there was a strong theme in his books of scruffy old men bestowing wisdom and sexual education to young nymphs with round breasts.  It just got a bit too obvious.

A book that challenged your identity: Offshore by Penelope Fitzgerald
This book and The Blue Flower blew me away.  I can't even say what it is exactly, but they seem like perfect books.  Like Time the Revelator by Gillian Welch is a perfect song.  They are books I wish I'd written and, I don't know, they are so short and odd, but they just really rang my chimes in a way that I didn't expect.

A series that you love: The Wimsey/Vane mystery series by Dorothy Sayers

Your favorite horror book: Smilla's Sense of Snow by Peter Hoeg
Starts out as a mystery and turns into a big ole X Files episode with icebergs and aliens.

Your favorite science fiction book:   Long Dark Tea Time of the Soul by Douglas Adams
What a damn shame he died.  Such a clever, funny writer whom you could tell just had a good heart and would be a great pal.  Anyway, the non-hitchhiker books are odd, but they were still funny and he clearly had a blast writing them.   

Your favorite fantasy:   Watership down by Richard Adams
What a great story.  And such memorable details about the nature of rabbits, complete with a separate language (hrair, silflay, embleer, etc.).  But all as just embellishments on an awesome adventure story.

Your favorite mystery: The Franchise Affair by Josephine Tey
I don't know that it is my favorite, but I ready it recently and quite enjoyed it.  A contemporary of Dorothy Sayers, Tey is a darker writer with very good characterization.  I have nothing interesting to say about it, though.

Your favorite biography: Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow
I think that's just the last one I read, although maybe I read the biography of Dorothy Sayers more recently.  They were both good.  My brain hasn't been able to get out of 2nd gear in a while and possibly never will again, so I found the Alexander Hamilton one interesting but a bit too dense.

Your favorite “coming of age” book: Dibs in Search of Self by Virginia Axline
Reading the first review on Amazon, it sounds like some people didn't like how the mother was cold and thus blamed for everything.  Geez.  Some women really are cold bitches, describing one isn't a blow against feminism or anything.  I'm a cold bitch, for example.  Anyway, it isn't really coming of age in terms of adolescence, since he was only five or so.  But it was still about growing up.

Your favorite classic: To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
For some reason, I never liked Dill, particularly.  Or, he made me uncomfortable or something.  But I loved Jem.  Jem's growing up seems like the backbone of the book.

Your favorite romance bookGaudy Night by Dorothy Sayers
I love this book.  And it is even quite sexy, I think.  Sayers always kept her characters at a distance, particularly Wimsey, all goofiness and intellectual verbosity, so the scene where Harriet notices the skin on the side of his face while watching him reading is quite...moving.

Your favorite book not on this list: This is the Zodiac Speaking: Inside the Mind of a Serial Killer by Michael Kelleher
This is by no means a favorite book, but I thought I'd mention it since there isn't a category for the book that arrived the same day you found out you were pregnant.  Sha-zam!

What about light switches? Door knobs?

Tour_house Watching House Hunters.  A charmingly young and naive couple (newlywed status is stated repeatedly) are looking for a house.  One of the houses has an automatic garage door opener. 

Question from the young bride: does the garage door opener come with the house?  You just want to pinch her cheeks, don't you?

The new face of the AARP

SmilingbabyBased on their commercials.  Which I think is v-e-e-e-r-r-y tricky of them.